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Childhood Abuse/Neglect

"Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do."
- Brene Brown

The effects of trauma live on in our bodies; even if we don't remember what happened, we suffer symptoms such as hyper-vigilance, flashbacks, emotional reactivity, racing thoughts, insomnia, nightmares, anxiety, risky or self-sabotaging behavior, dissociating, numbing out or shutting down, suicidal thoughts, or compulsiveness to name a few. The work involves helping you understand what is happening to you and helping you learn to trust yourself again.

 

People often ask if they need to talk about what happened to them, and no, you don't. In our experience, we find that at some point, you will most likely want to, but it definitely isn't necessary. We can help you make sense of the conflicting impulses you might have and the emotional roller coaster and often debilitating symptoms. We'll work on ways to regulate your nervous system and increase your resilience, and on processing, at your pace and in your own unique way, your traumatic memories. We use parts work, based on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Structural Dissociation model. We can also use Janina Fisher's Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment, Sensorimotor therapy interventions, somatic therapy, expressive arts activities, hypnotherapy, and EMDR when applicable.

 

Together, and in a way that feels right to you, we'll work to take the power out of the trapped memories so that the trauma you experienced becomes only a chapter in your book rather than the entire story. It is possible to have joy in your life!

Help is a phone call away. Call, text, or email now to set up a consultation: 408-337-2889  or  larissa@larissapasut.com

 
 

Dissociative Identity Disorder

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
- Anais Nin

There isn't agreement as to why people develop DID. One theory is that when a young child is subjected to attachment disturbances, repeated trauma that feels or is life threatening, and there is a lack of soothing or comforting, this can impact the normal development of the young child's sense of self across contexts. Essentially, the trauma impacts the ability of the child's personality to integrate into a cohesive sense of self. Another theory is that as the child experiences the trauma, the child's mind compartmentalizes the experiences or personality states into different, distinct parts as a way of protecting the child's sanity. While DID is a brilliant and effective adaptation, it can result in confusing symptoms and deep shame, which can be made worse by working with providers who don't recognize or have the training or experience to understand people with dissociative identities. Many people with dissociative identities are repeatedly misdiagnosed.

 

Professionals debate about whether the goal should be fusion, integration, co-consciousness or something else. In our experience, each person is unique and our goal is to help you make sense of your experience and find a way to live a life that works for you. We work to help you get to know  your own inner landscape by understanding the patterns of interaction between your parts, increasing communication, building trust, finding ways to regulate, healing and unburdening you parts, and ultimately finding a way to exist in a way that works well for you.

Organizations:

Some of these list resources for partners and family members too.

International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation

An Infinite Mind

First Person Plural

Many Voices

System Speak

The Plural Association

Kinhost.org

Help is a phone call away. Call, text, or email now to set up a consultation: 408-337-2889  or  larissa@larissapasut.com

 

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse can take many forms. Sometimes it is more obvious, with parents or caregivers being openly critical and abusive, as can be the case when our parents have a mental illness such as PTSD, has a personality disorder, or is alcoholic or otherwise drug addicted. Often though, it is much more subtle and it can leave you wondering whether or not you are imagining things or whether you are "going crazy." People will often think to themselves, "It wasn't so bad, why can't I get over it?"

 

For instance, a parent or caregiver might have been loving but not allowed you to have any boundaries, treating you more like a confidante or a pseudo-spouse than a child and getting upset, showing disappointment, or withdrawing love if you tried to object. Or perhaps your caregiver seemed fragile and you felt like you had to take care of them.

 

Both overt and covert abuse can leave you with a persistent sense of responsibility for other people's feelings, difficulty trusting others, and difficulty asserting yourself or with setting boundaries. It can feel very confusing and leave you with a great deal of self-doubt, or even crippling shame, where you wonder if maybe you are a bad person for feeling the way you do about your parents or caregivers.

This self-doubt can permeate other relationships and leave you with a sense of never being enough. You are not alone! We can help you understand why you have the feelings and reactions you do, and help you re-build trust in yourself.

Help is a phone call away. Call, text, or email now to set up a consultation: 408-337-2889  or  larissa@larissapasut.com

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Relationship Issues

It's heartbreaking when we crave the emotional intimacy of a close and nurturing relationship but we just can't seem to make it work. Maybe we even find ourselves self-sabotaging and making things worse for ourselves, almost knowingly acting in ways that don't end up getting us what we want. Or maybe we find ourselves in relationships with the same kinds of people over and over, even if it seemed so different at the beginning. Sometimes we feel capable in most areas of our lives except this one.

 

Whatever your relationship pattern is, we can help you understand what's happening so you CAN have fulfilling relationships.

We help you become aware of what unconscious messages you received about love as a child, and the ways in which you made sense of these messages for yourself. We all have the drive to connect AND the drive to protect ourselves from pain or to have autonomy. Sometimes we learn early in life that connection brings pain, or we are taught that we can't have boundaries in relationships, and we end up struggling between these two drives. We can help you unravel what core beliefs you came away with about yourself and relationships that might not be true anymore.

Regardless of the reason you struggle in relationships, you can learn to trust yourself and find meaningful connection both with yourself and with others.

Help is a phone call away. Call, text, or email now to set up a consultation: 408-337-2889  or  larissa@larissapasut.com

 

Couples/Relationship Therapy

Research shows that couples wait on average 6 years before seeking therapy for their issues, meaning that things can be pretty bad by the time you seek help. There can be lots of resentment and entrenched communication patterns built up. We can help!

We use a combination of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Therapy, two evidence-based approaches shown to work. We help you get to the root of the problem, so you can understand why you keep having the same argument over and over again, why arguments go in circles, or why you hurt each other despite your best efforts.

 

Communication skills are important, and we teach you those too, but often we find that it's not as much about the communication as it is that the underlying needs aren't being met. If something your partner says or does really gets to you, it's hard to keep your cool and use your skills. We'll help you get out of the cycle of blame and unite against the problem. It might seem impossible, but I can assure you it's not. We don't just listen and help you problem solve, we help you shift the underlying dynamic of your relationship and eliminate whatever it is that keeps you from being able to solve your problems together. 

We also specialize in working with high conflict couples who have a history of trauma. You can have a fulfilling, nurturing relationship!

 

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Help is a phone call away. Call, text, or email now to set up a consultation: 408-337-2889  or  larissa@larissapasut.com