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Individual & Couples Therapy

Trauma Therapy

"Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do."
- Brene Brown

The effects of trauma live on in our bodies; even if we don't remember what happened, we suffer symptoms such as hyper-vigilance, flashbacks, emotional reactivity, racing thoughts, insomnia, nightmares, anxiety, risky or self-sabotaging behavior, dissociating, numbing out or shutting down, suicidal thoughts, or compulsiveness to name a few. The work involves helping you understand what is happening to you and helping you learn to trust yourself again.

 

People often ask me if they need to talk about what happened to them, and no, you don't. I do find thought that at some point, you will most likely want to, but it isn't necessary. I help you make sense of the conflicting impulses you might have and the emotional roller coaster and often debilitating symptoms. We'll work on ways to regulate your nervous system and increase your resilience, and on processing, at your pace and in your own unique way, your traumatic memories. I use parts work, based on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Structural Dissociation model. I also use Janina Fisher's Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment, Sensorimotor therapy interventions, expressive arts activities, and EMDR when applicable.

 

Together, and in a way that feels right to you, we'll work to unlock and take the power out of the trapped memories so that the trauma you experienced becomes only a chapter in your book rather than the entire story. It is possible to have joy in your life!

 

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
- Anais Nin

 

Dissociative Identity Disorder

There isn't agreement as to why people develop DID. One theory is that when a young child is subjected to attachment disturbances, repeated trauma that feels or is life threatening, and there is a lack of soothing or comforting, this can impact the normal development of the young child's sense of self across contexts. Essentially, the trauma impacts the ability of the child's personality to integrate into a cohesive sense of self. Another theory is that as the child experiences the trauma, the child's mind compartmentalizes the experiences or personality states into different, distinct parts as a way of protecting the child's sanity. While DID is a brilliant and effective adaptation, it can result in confusing symptoms and deep shame, which can be made worse by working with providers who don't recognize or have the training or experience to understand people with dissociative identities. Many people with dissociative identities are repeatedly misdiagnosed.

 

Professionals debate about whether the goal should be fusion, integration, co-consciousness or something else. In my experience, each person is unique and my goal is to help you make sense of your experience and find a way to live a life that works for you. I work to help you get to know  your own inner landscape by understanding the patterns of interaction between your parts, increasing communication, building trust, finding ways to regulate, healing and unburdening you parts, and ultimately finding a way to exist in a way that works well for you.

Organizations:

Some of these list resources for partners and family members too.

International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation

An Infinite Mind

First Person Plural

Many Voices

System Speak

The Plural Association

Kinhost.org

 

Help is a phone call away. Call, text, or email now to set up a consultation: 408-337-2889  or  larissa@larissapasut.com

Relationship Issues

I provide therapy for adults and couples. It is heartbreaking when we crave the emotional intimacy of a close and nurturing relationship but we just can't seem to make it work. Maybe we even find ourselves self-sabotaging and making things worse for ourselves, almost knowingly acting in ways that don't end up getting us what we want. Or maybe we find ourselves in relationships with the same kinds of people over and over, even if it seemed so different at the beginning. Sometimes we feel capable in most areas of our lives except this one.

 

Whatever your relationship pattern is, I can help you understand what's happening so you CAN have fulfilling relationships.

My approach is based on helping you become aware of what unconscious messages you received about love as a child, and the ways in which you made sense of these messages for yourself. We all have the drive to connect AND the drive to protect ourselves from pain or to have autonomy. Sometimes we learn early in life that connection brings pain, or we are taught that we can't have boundaries in relationships, and we end up struggling between these two drives. I can help you unravel what core beliefs you came away with about yourself and relationships that might not be true anymore.

Regardless of the reason you struggle in relationships, I can help you learn to trust yourself and find meaningful connection both with yourself and with others.